why loving 2 people is called cheating

They say the greatest feeling is the feeling of love. When you are in love, everything around you turns beautiful. You feel passionate, you remain happy, you start believing in forgiveness and you start living in your present.

But if a person is in love with two people at a time then everything turns bad in an audience eye.

Believe it or not but falling in love with someone is very easy.

So why people start hating a person who loves more than one human? After all he/she does not hate anyone; he/she is just spreading love. Isn’t that we are all been taught right from our childhood, spread love (When I say love don’t mix it with sex).

And you don’t love someone because you want to, it just happens. You meet a stranger; you try to be nice to that person because that is what is being inculcated in you by your parents. If you like a person; you talk more and once that comfort level enters you start tell about yourself. And once you start telling about yourself you actually start rediscovering yourself and get to know few new things about yourself and feel amazed. At that point you realize that this girl/boy actually helped you knowing yourself better (which is partially true). And the love factor starts entering your soul. After that you both talk talk talk and finally realize that you are in love.

Now if you are in love for the first time; its wow but if you are in love for the second time and there is one person already in your life; in that case boy is an asshole and girl is a bitch.

But why! Why people say such a statement? And who made this rule of loving just one person?

Can’t a person love two people at a same time in a same way?

And if he/she does then is it their fault?

What is love?

People say love is Unconditional. True love is all about giving. I use to believe in it. I experienced it. I gave whatever good I have. And I even enjoyed it. Giving never cause pain. Giving always makes you feel happy, it makes you feel bliss.

After giving all I have I demanded nothing, I received nothing. Ever time I gave something I felt peace, I felt connected to god. But still there was something that was incomplete, a barrier in the connection. I starting consoling my soul, making it believe that this is love all about. Love is giving. Love is expecting nothing. Love is liberty. Love is freedom. I started feeling satisfied, my soul was heeling now.

But suddenly someone appeared and I fall in love again. I gave all I have but this time I received as well. I was confused. I dint know what to do, I dint know how to receive it or how to value it. I knew love is giving but I dint know that love is receiving. I opened my arms and received everything that was given to me. This was magical – giving and receiving. I felt connected to god again and this time there was no barrier. Our souls were connected.

I demanded nothing still I received. I expected nothing still I got more than that. My love was unconditional may be that’s why I received it in multiples.

Yes love is giving but that is not all. Love is also receiving.

I love you till the end

I love you till the end

A beautiful song from a beautiful movie (P.S. i love you) with beautiful lyrics.

I just want to see you when you are all alone

I just want to catch you if a can

I just want to be there when the morning light explodes

On your face it radiates I can’t escape

I love you till the end……..

I just want to tell you nothing you don’t want to hear

All I want is for you to say

Oh! Why don’t you just take me where I’ve never been before

I know you want to hear me catch my breath

I love you till the end……..

I just want to be there when we were caught in the rain

I just want to see you laugh not cry

I just want to feel you when the night put on its cloak

I’m lost for words don’t tell me because all I can say is

I love you till the end……..

Quantified Love

Quantified Love

Every couple or every love bird says I love you so much or they says my love for you is increasing or has increased with each passing day and I love you a lot.

Even they start playing mind games in love. Girl asks boy - how much you love me. And boy says it’s raining outside just go and count the drops.

People also compare in love. Girl asks do you love me more than your friends and even parents ask this question from their child, whom do you love more, your dad or mom?

So what I’m trying to say is that love cannot be quantified.

It’s actually acceptability that matters, its acceptability that increases or decreases. Acceptability of your partner, acceptability of his/her habits, acceptability of his/her likes and dislikes and more importantly acceptability of his/her beliefs.

It’s the Acceptability that increases with the passage of time not love. Your love remains constant.

We are in love with a special one but still there are few things we don’t like in him/her. With the passage of time we start liking those things as well and we have started liking it because we accepted their habits. If we are able to accept their habits our compatibility will increases but the love part will remain same.

For the first time when you felt that you are in love with your partner, at that very moment you were in love and no matter whether your acceptance/compatibility increases or decreases your love, your feeling remain same.

Being straight is being boring

“When something is rare, it’s precious and when it gets abundant, it loses its value”.

Just saying “I love you” to your love one gets boring some times. As your partner get use to those words. So, the effectiveness of those words reduces. I’m not saying don’t express your love, but don’t express it 10 times in a day.

When you here “I love you” from your partner for the first time you are on cloud seven. But that does not happen when you hear the same word for the fiftieth time.

You know, the most beautiful time in a guy’s life is when he does everything and anything to make a girl fall in love with him. And the best moment is when he put all his courage together and proposes a girl and she says “stupid what took you so long to propose”

But as they get into a relationship the above excitement reduces with each passing day. And the reason for the reduction is that when the guy proposed a girl for the first time, it was magical words for her and she felt special; guy repeats the words for the second time, the impact of those words were even more. But the word would not remain magical for the thirtieth time and the she won’t feel any special.

It’s like Law of Marginal Utility
You are thirsty. You drink a sip of water, you feel satisfied. You drink another sip, your satisfaction increases. You drink third sip, you are even more satisfied. But once your thirst is over and then if you drink a sip your satisfaction will reduce and you won’t feel the need of drinking it any more.

The excitement reduces because none of them is doing anything to make each other special.

So my point here is that don’t be straight all the time while saying I love you or while presenting a gift or while asking her for a date. Whenever you do all these things do it as if you are doing it for the first time and in a different manner all the time.

No repetition and you’ll see that your partner is on could seven every time you do something for her/him.

P.S : When I say don’t be straight doesn’t mean I’m saying be diplomatic. And there is no written rule that it’s a boy who has to do all the things to make his girl feel special. It’s a vice-versa thing.